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Leigh Stein's avatar

"People are drawn to those who embody the complications they can’t untangle in themselves. That’s why we read novels." Amen!

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Michael Melcher's avatar

Meghan, I really enjoyed your recent convo with Lionel Shriver where she describes the woke forces as utterly humorless and joyless. (I personally think that there are lots of people who are humorless - normally they don’t have much of a fan base but now they have their time in the sun.). My point is: your writing is really joyful and always funny even when talking about your own problematization. It’s one reason I think you’re so cool and inspirational.

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EmBee's avatar

Problematized = the nuanced AF version of canceled.

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JulesSt's avatar

I look forward to you adding "Problematized" as a new line of merch. Wear it proudly.

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Amy Reece's avatar

Something like “I’ve got 99 problems and Meghan is one of them”?

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Steve Friedman's avatar

I have been and continue to be a HUGE admirer of you and your reputational aura.

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HistoryBoomer's avatar

Makes me think of being in a discussion (online) with a bunch of ultra liberal types. New to a lot of this, I said the word "problematic" seems to be just a way of saying "bad." They vigorously denied it. That's the lovely thing about the word. It totally means "bad, to be shunned" but it can pretend to be more nuanced.

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Kelly Anderson's avatar

You're great just as you are! You speak the truth and ponder the complexities of the times we find ourselves in now, as do many of us. I keep hoping I'll wake up tomorrow and things will have turned in another direction...that of reason and productive debate.

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Mary's avatar

God, I love this article. So well put.

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Alison McCabe's avatar

If you put yourself out there, you’re bound to be problematized, unless by doing so you’re simply pandering to the latest popular narrative, virtue signaling, highlighting your victimhood status, or joining the chorus of complaints against the cancelled and problematized. You are a truth-seeker, Meghan. It’s a dangerous game these days!

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Derek Bitter's avatar

You’ve never been canceled or problematic to me Meghan, up until a year ago or so, I didn’t even know who you were!

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Not Sam Harris's avatar

I am currently being cancelled by a neighbor. It’s precipitated a crisis such that I am walking to the emergency room with a psychiatric situation, and yes I listened to that episode, twice.

You can be nobody and they will come for you for what you listen to in your own nyc bedroom. I shit you not. (Sorry Meghan it was John mcwhorter)

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Meghan Daum's avatar

Oh my goodness. I hope you are okay.

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Not Sam Harris's avatar

Additionally, the nurses have developed a defensive culture of bullying and petit tyrant syndrome. I saw a man get strapped to a bed for literally nothing, just a door slam. Food brought by visitors for patients interdicted and consumed. Being denied my “street clothes” (how dare they throw shade at my couture lol) after the doctor ordered them returned. Every short cut through the human dignity of their patients they can conceivably get away with.

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Not Sam Harris's avatar

I was a voluntary commitment, at Bellevue, and I had to get sprung by a judge today. The doctor was insisting my neighbors were pure delusion (they are not, there are corroborating witnesses). I’ve had quite a misadventure but “the system” actually worked. Definitely saw some things I can’t unsee, these wards are cray-craygenic if I may coin a phrase.

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Tyler's avatar

At the risk of using a cliche, I appreciate your nuanced take on the subtle difference between cancellation and being labeled as problematic.

Like most cultural phenomena, the term cancellation is certainly susceptible to misuse and/or overuse. I suppose the only people who can truly describe themselves as cancelled are those whose primary livelihood was snatched away for thoughtcrime. I intentionally use the term "primary" because the fact that they can still produce content on smaller, less prestigious platforms does not necessarily mitigate their cancellation. Could Bari Weiss ever get another job at a legacy MSM outlet? Megyn Kelly? James Bennett? Donald McNeil?

I've noticed some on the social justice left assert that someone has not been "cancelled" simply because that person is still visible on alternative platforms. But what is the reach of those platforms?

I would urge your readers to Google "Joshua Katz", a tenured professor drummed out of Princeton on highly dubious charges of intellectual racism. No disrespect to outlets such as Quillette, the City Journal, and Substack, (Katz publishes on these platforms) but none of them are on the same level as "tenured Ivy League professor" a title to which Katz can never again aspire (he's in his early 50's so not yet ready for emeritus status).

Question for Meghan: do you think that the views you've expressed the last 5-6 years have foreclosed you from ever having full-time gig equivalent to what you had at the Los Angeles Times? If the answer is yes, then maybe cancellation is indeed an appropriate term.

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Meghan Daum's avatar

I suspect so. But given that legacy media has neither the budget nor reach that it used to, I'm not sure it matters.

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Tyler's avatar

Haha. As soon as I hit "post" a similar thought occurred to me. The rapidly changing business model provided you a convenient dodge from my question.

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Mary's avatar

@Tyler Also to your point, yes, I have also worried about a certain amount of reach an author or journalist has as these quick, deep cultural shifts have happened.

I think there are a lot of people, readers and/or viewers, who still do want to see diversity and diversity viewpoint perspectives they may or may not agree with at all moments. They don’t see it as a bad thing. Plenty of people know the world is complicated!

But there seems to be loud sects of people who are obsessed with making everything very “pure” for one side or the other and many readers/viewers tire of this. They beat that drum very loudly, whether that’s for fame or popularity. It’s an insufferable bunch of folks who want to preach to people about what they want them to think. They don’t seem to want people to think for themselves. I think some of these people are actually afraid of people thinking deeply for fear they will think the “wrong” thing. (This is where are that cancellation of speakers comes in -- just my opinion).

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Mary's avatar

@Tyler I think those are good points to think about. Although I’m glad there are smart individuals who find audiences and outlets to embrace their writings, reportings (you know, smart people who understand the complexities and nuances that life brings who have the will and ability to put it in their work) I am also worried that there may be less of an appetite for it than their used to be. (Perhaps pre-Trump era, 2015ish).

I’m also worried about how a multitude of media sectors either don’t want to explore as much complexity into an issue or worry about exploring it. *Or* they’re in this hard far-left sector or hard far-right sector of media and they don’t want to explore much complexity at all.

This is a much larger topic of course, and plenty has been said about it. I just get so exhausted by it all. I wish people would chill and just let people ask questions, talk, make some jokes here and there, fight, and be human. It’s so tiresome and stressful! I become so frustrated by the amount of side stepping everyone feels they have to do sometimes.

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Tyler's avatar

I'm guessing that a majority of Meghan's audience is old enough to remember when there were only 4 broadcast networks (3 majors and PBS), no round the clock cable news, and no internet. So our consumption was limited to essentially what everyone else was seeing.

But now thanks to technology there's a plethora of choices, especially ones that will gladly reinforce your particular world view. Since I lean libertarian, I'm inclined to let a thousand flower bloom, so to speak. Want to sit and watch Newsmax all day? knock yourself out. Want to sit and watch MSNBC all day? again knock yourself out. In a free society, we don't get to decide which news sources are acceptable for consumption and the content of that news (fortunately, we are not in North Korea, Venezuela, Cuba, Russia or China).

I know there's a lot of concern about polarization but is that level of polarization anywhere near 1861? Far from it - I sometimes think the handwringing is a bit overwrought.

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RichieHardcore's avatar

This is such a great piece, and sadly, I really relate to it! I think many people who ask questions of the sudden transformation of what used to be left wing spaces find themselves in the same situation. Thank you for putting words to it so well! (And I hope you had fun at the book event!)

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Jessica Elefante's avatar

Do I smell the name of a new book? (As always, appreciate you having the hard conversations)

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Meghan Daum's avatar

God, no.

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Chris Burlingame's avatar

At least where I live (Seattle), I assumed bookstores were the ones who usually set up local interviewers for touring authors because the I can't yet allow myself to believe two out of every three authors with events in town request to share the stage with Angela Garbes.

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Meghan Daum's avatar

I suppose it's possible the bookstore might suggest someone, but pretty much everything is on the author these days.

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Sir Jay's avatar

I think what we really need to do is get specific about what cancelled, or cancellation, means as a concept. You’ve definitely been “problematized.” I thought that was a clever and apt way of putting it, and I knew what you were referring to right when you used that word. It’s good especially--not sure whether you intended it or not--because in social-justice-speak, to call something “problematic” is to try and bureaucratically indicate that you can’t tell whether something is ‘safe,’ that is to say Left Progressive, or anything else besides, which makes it “problematic” at least, if not, God help you if you’re, “racist.” If you’ve been problematized Meghan, this just means you haven’t been cancelled YET. Perhaps you could consider yourself blacklisted or on a watchlist by the cancellers even.

For the sake of example though, I define cancellation like this: where something you did or said has raised such a disturbance that the institutional context in which it occurred, revolts against you. Like when I was a freshman in college during orientation, I said during a DEI seminar straight up, among other logical things, that people should not all be entitled to equal “respect” as a principle. (I was just making the point that not everyone can be “included,” because society is full of natural social hierarchies, and it would be a radical egalitarian view, illiberal to me to expect that we all start to value each other with equal respect--respect is earned, not something you’re entitled to as a principle of existing, in my opinion)

Subsequently the administration staged an intervention bc some kids were apparently offended by my comments, and the school psychologist tried to convince my parents that I might be mentally ill, then I was carted off to a local hospital for a psych eval, because that was protocol. Gratefully I was found not to have the bipolar disorder, for which I was arbitrarily tested.

If that’s not getting cancelled, I don’t know what is. Moreover, I was traumatized after those events, and this is a bit pathetic, but I acquired a stutter for the next few years in college, and I was afraid to challenge progressive orthodoxy everywhere I went and I was even wary with whomever I made friends, not to say anything that might make people afraid of me.

Now here’s an example of what is not cancellation. A year or so ago I broke off a friendship with a guy who I had been best friends with since I was 16. I’m 25 now. And the reason I broke ties with him was over his sympathy for the rioters who stormed the capitol and later, when he revealed to me he believed Biden was not a legitimately elected president. Breaking ties with him, he considered me to be cancelling him. I think he’s wrong to make that accusation, because I didn’t go out of my way to ruin his life or set back his career or anything. Yeah I told my other friends he’s a raving MAGA man who sympathizes with the insurrectionists, but otherwise I didn’t ban him on social media or say anything on social media or anything. It was entirely liberal what I did. I just exercised my right to free association, selecting whom to be around, and respecting his liberty, which also involves selecting whom not to be around.

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Meghan Daum's avatar

I'm really sorry that happened to you. And, no, losing a friend over politics is not being cancelled. It's part of being alive at this point.

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